dear Ada, the admirable female scientists I know are too many to mention
Ada Lovelace day is quite exciting, isn't it? Props to all the lady scientists I know and the work you're doing. I've listened to you talk, over the years, about your place of work and how life is, being part of a minority; the exhausting pull of being cherished and despised, desired and resented. The exhaustion of being special, never being able to slip into a default, ordinary position. The small unfairnesses, the celebrated gains. The hope that it will be better in the future. From those who want children, I've heard, again and again, an exhausted collective frustration at the pressure not to breed. Often I've heard it termed as having to chose between children and a career, but I think that is inaccurate. It's not a choice; they need both children and a career. We all do, nowadays. Rather, I think it is a sort of back-door punishment. Science, classified as masculine, academic, non-family, non-sexual, must be populated by people who express within this behaviour set. Those who chose to express family or sexual behaviours are punished by having options decreased and interesting work taken away for those with "more time". It's subtle and insidious -- and doubtless hits some men, too.